Why You May Never Arrive at Your Destination and Why That’s a Good Thing

ID-100132826“In essence, if we want to direct our lives, we must take control of our consistent actions.  It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently.” ~Tony Robbins

One day many years ago, I was leaving my place of work to go home for lunch and I saw a woman running down the street.  From my best guess, she was in her late forties and had accumulated excess weight in her abdominal area­, which we all know by now is dangerous.  She was running at a slow pace and appeared to be struggling with her breath.  Except for what I saw, I knew nothing else about her.

Over the course of several months, I would continue to see her pounding the pavement on my way home for lunch and what I began to witness was astounding.  Gradually, her step got lighter and quicker and I could see that she was breathing easier.  She also lost a considerable amount of belly fat, her face got thinner and she had a glow to her skin that wasn’t there before.  And the look of struggle was eventually replaced with a look of pure joy.   It didn’t take a genius to see that this woman was transforming her health.

Fast forward two decades.  I’ve been working out at the same gym almost daily for a little over a year.  When I first started going, I noticed a woman who came in regularly too and each time I ran into her, she was focused on her workout.  The last few times I’ve been, it dawned on me that this woman had lost a significant amount of weight.  Her hips, thighs, and arms had shrunk and she now had a waist.  She’s also more energetic, her complexion is pink, and she smiles a lot.  I also spoke with her the other day and she said that after years of putting herself last and feeling the effects of that, she put her foot down and decided that her own self-care was a priority. Yay for her!!

Yes, both of these women have lost weight.  AND their improved health is showing up as increased energy, healthier skin, and better moods.  Both women are examples of what you can accomplish when you make the commitment.  It’s like anything else, right?  If you commit the time and effort to furthering your education, working on your relationships, spending quality time with your kids, packing your own lunch, or maintaining your home, it will eventually pay off.  Often times in ways that you don’t anticipate.   For both of these women, their commitment, consistency, and determination was paying off.  Not overnight, but over time. 

If you agree with the expression, it’s the journey, not the destination, then you get that the transformation that happens along the way is what gets you there.  Where it really gets interesting, though, is that you may never actually arrive ‘there’, because as you change and grow, so does the destination.

My most successful clients are the ones that make a commitment to themselves and are consistent with their actions.  That doesn’t mean that they never splurge at a birthday party or holiday, or that they never miss a workout.  It just means that their new normal is healthier and they are much quicker to get back on track and move forward than they were in the past.  And this is in part because they’ve adopted new habits.

I was talking with one of my clients recently and she agreed that with everything she’s learned, she can’t really go back because she’s inherently changed.  She’s equipped with information that has changed the way she see things and she’s tried and experienced new things that have expanded her toolbox and her habits towards better health and she now knows what it’s like to feel good!

Not long ago, I saw the same female runner again – running of course.  Still looking amazing and still on her journey, and once again inspiring me…

If you’re motivated and ready to make a commitment to yourself but unsure where to begin, I’d love to help.

12 thoughts on “Why You May Never Arrive at Your Destination and Why That’s a Good Thing

  1. I was working with someone just the other day on their “Acts of Daily Spritual Living” and, bless her, she wanted to know when she would “Get there’. It’s all about the journey and the journey ~ whether if physical, or spiritual health stays with us forever. Thanks for the reminder!

  2. I love this Linda! I’ve resumed my own health and fitness journey this year, and am focusing on the long-term changes in my behaviour and habits, as this is where the transformation comes. And I can so relate to putting myself and my health first!

    • Congratulations Sarada! Accepting that this is a long-term journey will help you enjoy the process too! Happy for you and your new found commitment to your health : )

    • So glad that it spoke to you Lorraine! I was just listening to Tony Robbins and he said one thing is certain and that is change is always happening – it’s one thing we don’t have to force or focus on. The one thing we should focus on that will ultimately make us happy, though, he said, is progress. No matter where we are in our life, the feeling that we’re accomplishing something is what will make us happy! It’s so true… : )

  3. We’re so programmed to want it all, now, immediately. That’s why fad diets are so popular. But it’s consistency that allows us to make permanent and positive changes. A little bit every day goes a lot farther than a short sprint of good intentions.

    Though… I recently did a 5-day juice fast. I’d never juiced in my life, so it was kind of fun, novel. 5 days. No big deal. But doing that “sprint” changed my eating habits on a daily basis. Now, I juice every day and I’ve added a lot more raw veggies to my diet. And I’m loving it! If I hadn’t done the spring, I may not have decided to enter the marathon.

    • So true Nancy and thankfully many people are finally realizing that it’s consistency over time that will get results. That’s great that you juice everyday! I do as well and love the energy from it. When you begin to feel what’s possible, it’s motivation to keep going…

  4. Linda, it’s so great to be reminded that it’s a journey. My destination is to be lean, fit, and vibrant, so that won’t change, but the path to get there isn’t necessarily a straight line. As long as we stay on our path, we will get there. Thanks for the motivation!

  5. Hi Linda, I feel as though you’ve written this for me. I have images of myself at the gym, glowing, and in shape. It’s just the getting there that’s the difficulty. I now have no more excuses and am very thankful. The gym has daycare and my newborn is now old enough to go. Thank you for this wonderful, gentle, and inspirational reminder :-) Janet

    • That’s great Janet! You can get in your workout with you baby nearby, rather than wait many years to finally decide that you deserve some self care. The sooner you begin, the sooner it will also have a positive impact on your energy and your role as a mom!